We’ve discovered the marriages that last the test of time are not between two people, but three.
Picture a triangle. Your spouse is at one end, you at the other, and God at the top. The closer each of you draw to God individually the closer you draw to each other.
Understanding this principle releases your spouse from carrying the weight of your personal development. The more complete you become in Christ the better husband or wife you will be.
So what does this look like practically? It looks like a wife pouring her heart out to the Lord in prayer before she brings it to her husband. It looks like a husband getting up 30 minutes earlier in order to spend time with God before he goes to work.
Whatever it is you do, focusing on your relationship with God first will make you the best spouse you could ever be.
Trust the triangle. It really works.