Too many couples struggle from ambition angst.
Ambition is a great passenger but a terrible driver. It can help you accomplish great things but it can also tear you apart. All-too-often we see couples struggling because one or both have competing ambitions. They may fulfill a dream but they fail in marriage.
The key is to keep our ambition in check. We counsel couples to do two things – clearly communicate what you want, and then promptly let it go! The second part is not always embraced with a hearty “Amen.”
The best way we’ve found to harness our own personal ambitions is through the power of appreciation. When you focus on what you appreciate about your spouse you are more inclined to drop my thing for our thing.
The beauty of parking your own personal ambition is that, in time, you may get to accomplish that dream after all. But you’ll have a healthy marriage and a happy spouse to share it with.
So ask yourself, “Is there anything that I want personally that’s standing in the way of us relationally?” If so, drop your thing for our thing and watch your thing magically re-appear.