Focus in Love

By Jason Benham

The phrase “fall in love” should be replaced with “focus in love.” We don’t truly “fall” in love. Rather, we focus on what we like in a person and our admiration draws us to them.

We learn this in a small love story found in Genesis 29:20. “And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed to him but a few days because of the love he had for her.”

Jacob served Rachel’s dad for seven years before he could marry his daughter. That’s almost two full college lifetimes. If I were Jacob, I would have tried to marry her first and then work the seven years, but Jacob chose the harder route as he wanted to earn his keep.

The most interesting part of this little love story is that these seven years “seemed to him but a few days because of the love he had for her.” How does seven full years of hard labor seem like a few days?

Because of LOVE!

When you’re in love with someone your focus is on them and not yourself. You’re not pulled in a million different directions. The time seemed to fly by because Jacob’s focus wasn’t on how hard the work was, but on how much he loved his girl. His focus was right, so his heart was right.

Maybe your love has grown cold and you’ve forgotten what it felt like to be in love. Well, make your spouse your focus today, and readjust your heart so you are more concerned about them than yourself. When your focus is right, your heart will be right. Jacob got it right and so can we.

Jason Benham

My aim is simple: I want to get you hooked on God’s Word so that you become the godly man your wife and kids need you to be—the faithful warrior God called you to be. As men, we were made to fight, and our greatest weapon is the Word of God. Armed with His truth, we can win the battles desperately raging against us, our marriages, our families, as well as the culture in which we are called to change.

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