Six months after Tori and I were married, I had all but lost that lovin’ feelin’. Sure, I still loved her and had no intentions of leaving or anything, but that spark we felt back when we were dating was now a distant memory. Deep emotional connection and romantic dates were replaced by ambitious career pursuit and “guy nights”. (How many of you have been there?)
Within our first five years, we had basically settled for the typical marriage. On a scale of 1-10 we were a 6, maybe a 7, but this was not what I had originally planned, nor was it what I was willing to accept. After two weeks of praying over my wife and asking God to reignite the fire where I was literally laying my hands on her early in the mornings (with no strings attached), God slapped me right in the face! I … had … stopped … pursuing … her. Talk about a conviction sandwich. While praying for her, God laid the problem right at my feet.
When my twin brother, David, and I were 12-years-old, our dad challenged us to start reading the Bible. (Yes, I have a twin, but I’m much better looking than he is! You can check us out at www.BenhamBrothers.com) Our dad was a preacher, so we felt we had enough of the Bible in our lives, but as we began reading Scripture for ourselves, the words started to jump off the page and into our hearts. Thirty years later (man, we’re getting old!) we learned to cherish the wisdom of God’s Word in our everyday lives. There’s not one part of who we are that the Bible has not impacted in a great way, and I want you to experience the same thing!
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Many of you know the story of Joseph, how he was sold into slavery by his brothers only to end up many years later second in command in Egypt. It was at this time a famine hit the region causing Joseph’s brothers to come to Egypt for food. It just so happened their unrecognizable brother … Continued
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Our son Jake is an affectionate little guy. Physical touch is by far his top love language. Rarely a week goes by where we don’t hear Jake say at least once, “Dad, give mom a smooch!” When we do he just sits there and smiles. Seeing us be affectionate with each other seems to fill … Continued
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As husbands, one of the greatest gifts we husbands can give our families is security. Research shows that the need for security is the number one core human need. The way we give our families security is to be their provider and protector. If they can trust us to provide for and protect them their … Continued
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Genesis 30:1-3 – “Now when Rachel saw that she bore Jacob no children, Rachel envied her sister, and said to Jacob, ‘Give me children, or else I die!’ And Jacob’s anger was aroused against Rachel, and he said, ‘Am I in the place of God, who has withheld from you the fruit of the womb?’ … Continued
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God + Adam = not good. God + Adam + Eve = good. What was missing? Relationship! Listen in on our study this morning of Genesis 2 when God created woman from man.
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Genesis 4:5 – “but [God] did not respect Cain and his offering. And Cain was very angry, and his countenance fell.” (NKJV) We see in Ephesians 5:33 that one of man’s core needs is respect, especially within marriage. If he doesn’t get this respect it positions him to do all sorts of bad things with … Continued
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Relationships die when one or both parties refuse to accept responsibility and take ownership for their behavior. If a husband refuses to listen to his wife and/or cannot be corrected by anyone at anytime, the relationship is doomed. If an argument ensues and a wife refuses to take responsibility for her part in the skirmish, … Continued
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