The Art of Attraction

Allure – the quality of being powerfully and mysteriously attractive or fascinating. Think back to the very first time you found yourself crazy attracted to your spouse. Was it when you first met? For me, it happened a year after Tori and I met. I was playing in Bluefield, WV for the Orioles’ rookie team … Continued

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How A Good Marriage Proves Our Love For God

It’s easier to love God than to love people. Why? Because God is perfect. People are not (well, that’s debatable :)) God never fails. He doesn’t have bad breath. He doesn’t pass gas under the bed sheets. It’s much harder to love people than to love Him. But God says, “if you say you love … Continued

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Trust the Triangle

We’ve discovered the marriages that last the test of time are not between two people, but three. Picture a triangle. Your spouse is at one end, you at the other, and God at the top. The closer each of you draw to God individually the closer you draw to each other. Understanding this principle releases … Continued

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When Fear Gets Loud

I don’t know about you but fear can get awfully loud inside of me. The more attention I give it, the stronger and louder it gets. A childhood memory of mine reminds me of this painful truth, but it also shows me the beauty of what’s on the other side of fear when I choose … Continued

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The Key to Relational Warmth

“Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone?” (Ecclesiastes 4:11) Imagine a cold night in the dead of winter and you jump into your cold bed with your spouse. God has divinely created us so that we give off body heat, so when two bodies touch we … Continued

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Four Phases of Parenting

Parenting four kids has taught us a lot. Now that our oldest is 16 we’re starting to see how our parenting has moved through four distinct phases. Phase 1: BABYSITTER – this is the first stage in parenting where all we care about is making sure our kids are safe and that they don’t put … Continued

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The Power of Forgiveness

One of the greatest hang-ups for married couples is in the area of forgiveness. Refusing to forgive and/or refusing to seek forgiveness leaves couples stuck until they deal with the issue at hand. Fortunately, Jesus gives us some instruction on what to do. In the famous “Lord’s Prayer” we see Him teaching us two areas … Continued

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How Humor Can Resolve Conflict

The details about how the argument began are a bit foggy. Jason and I hadn’t been married two years because we only had our first born, Trae. He was in a stroller and we were walking through a parking lot making our way to the county fair. I’m sure I had all sorts of expectations … Continued

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The Thoughts I Think Toward You

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you an expected end. Jeremiah 29:11 It had been a long day! I was tired. I tried to get excited about our “fun” evening planned but everything felt like so much work. Jason … Continued

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Sowing & Reaping

I can’t tell you how many times I heard my dad quote this, especially during my teenage years… “Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny.” Jason can imitate him saying it perfectly. I get tongue-tied every time I … Continued

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