Jason Benham

The phrase “fall in love” should be replaced with “focus in love.” We don’t truly “fall” in love. Rather, we focus on what we like in a person and our admiration draws us to them. We learn this in a small love story found in Genesis 29:20. “And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and … Continued

One of our goal’s this year (and every year) is to grow closer to each of our kids individually. It always seems like the most stressful times in our marriage revolve around issues with our kids. But the reverse is also true – when we’re hitting on all cylinders with the kids it really sets … Continued

Every year we read through the Bible, so December is the month we hit the book of Revelation. We never really saw this before, but this year a passage in Revelation 19 jumped off the page. The setting was the marriage supper of the Lamb where Jesus comes back to take His fiancé , the Church, … Continued

Allure – the quality of being powerfully and mysteriously attractive or fascinating. Think back to the very first time you found yourself crazy attracted to your spouse. Was it when you first met? For me, it happened a year after Tori and I met. I was playing in Bluefield, WV for the Orioles’ rookie team … Continued

It’s easier to love God than to love people. Why? Because God is perfect. People are not (well, that’s debatable :)) God never fails. He doesn’t have bad breath. He doesn’t pass gas under the bed sheets. It’s much harder to love people than to love Him. But God says, “if you say you love … Continued

We’ve discovered the marriages that last the test of time are not between two people, but three. Picture a triangle. Your spouse is at one end, you at the other, and God at the top. The closer each of you draw to God individually the closer you draw to each other. Understanding this principle releases … Continued

“Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone?” (Ecclesiastes 4:11) Imagine a cold night in the dead of winter and you jump into your cold bed with your spouse. God has divinely created us so that we give off body heat, so when two bodies touch we … Continued

Parenting four kids has taught us a lot. Now that our oldest is 16 we’re starting to see how our parenting has moved through four distinct phases. Phase 1: BABYSITTER – this is the first stage in parenting where all we care about is making sure our kids are safe and that they don’t put … Continued

One of the greatest hang-ups for married couples is in the area of forgiveness. Refusing to forgive and/or refusing to seek forgiveness leaves couples stuck until they deal with the issue at hand. Fortunately, Jesus gives us some instruction on what to do. In the famous “Lord’s Prayer” we see Him teaching us two areas … Continued

“Now as the ark of the LORD came into the City of David, Michal, Saul’s daughter, looked through a window and saw King David leaping and whirling before the LORD; and she despised him in her heart.” (2 Samuel 6:16) Here we see King David’s wife Michal giving every married person a great example of … Continued