Jason Benham

Conflict in relationship God’s way of making us more like Him. While it may be uncomfortable, it’s the only way our rough edges can be smoothed out. Conflict can either lead to gridlock or gratitude. It all depends on what we choose to do when it takes place. When conflict arises you have one of … Continued

Bottling up emotions today leads to bubbling over emotions tomorrow. Repressed emotions lead to the breakdown of relationships. But so does overly expressed emotions. The key is somewhere in the middle where we don’t hold everything in and seeth, but we also don’t spout everything out like a fire hose. Below are five small steps … Continued

I read a simple email the other day that asked a powerful question. What if we replaced the word “sorry” with the phrase “thank you?” Sorry I was late. Sorry I am venting. Sorry I missed dinner. What if we replaced those phrases with: Thank you for waiting. Thank you for listening. Thank you for … Continued

After 15 years of our kids begging for a dog we finally broke down and got one. We’ve already fallen in love with our little “Roo,” but we’ve discovered quickly that unexpected expenses and trips to the doggy doctor are now the new norm. Yesterday Tori brought her to the vet to get a shot. … Continued

Your marriage isn’t about you and your spouse. It’s about you and Jesus. Marriage is the opportunity to live and love like Him. In the New Testament alone there are 59 “one another” statements. That’s nearly 60 exhortations to “do something” toward another person. What we do toward others is our way of living like … Continued

In the book of Luke we see a fascinating story on the power of gratitude and how it closes the “love loop” and creates connection in your relationships. Take a few mins and listen in…  

We hold hands a lot. We never knew why we enjoyed it so much until we listened to a talk by a clinical psychologist who spoke about the power of holding hands and its effect on the brain. He put people into an MRI machine and lightly shocked them to see how their brains responded. … Continued

The phrase “fall in love” should be replaced with “focus in love.” We don’t truly “fall” in love. Rather, we focus on what we like in a person and our admiration draws us to them. We learn this in a small love story found in Genesis 29:20. “And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and … Continued

One of our goal’s this year (and every year) is to grow closer to each of our kids individually. It always seems like the most stressful times in our marriage revolve around issues with our kids. But the reverse is also true – when we’re hitting on all cylinders with the kids it really sets … Continued

Every year we read through the Bible, so December is the month we hit the book of Revelation. We never really saw this before, but this year a passage in Revelation 19 jumped off the page. The setting was the marriage supper of the Lamb where Jesus comes back to take His fiancé , the Church, … Continued