7 Tips to Strengthen a Struggling Relationship

All relationships face challenges from time to time. It’s not reasonable to expect that any relationship will be all unicorns and rainbows 24/7 (Tori’s the rainbow – I’m the unicorn!) We deal with this in depth in our upcoming book Beauty In Battle. We show couples how fighting is not something you’re supposed to give up in marriage. You’re … Continued

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Let’s Talk About Sex

The book of Proverbs has a lot to say about sex. It shows us the pitfalls of immortality as well as the keys to sexual satisfaction. When you read the sage wisdom of the book of Proverbs you’ll see that the writer believes sexual satisfaction is possible if you’re simply willing to “let it” happen. … Continued

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Parking Your Ambition

Too many couples struggle from ambition angst. Ambition is a great passenger but a terrible driver. It can help you accomplish great things but it can also tear you apart. All-too-often we see couples struggling because one or both have competing ambitions. They may fulfill a dream but they fail in marriage. The key is … Continued

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One Word That Changes Everything

A sure-fire way to start a fight is to begin with the word “You.” “You never come home on time.” “You talk down at me.” “You lose your temper too much.” Starting with the word “You” puts your spouse in a defensive position. If a fight can be triggered by the word “You,” it can … Continued

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The Conflict Dichotomy

Conflict in relationship God’s way of making us more like Him. While it may be uncomfortable, it’s the only way our rough edges can be smoothed out. Conflict can either lead to gridlock or gratitude. It all depends on what we choose to do when it takes place. When conflict arises you have one of … Continued

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5 Steps to Deal With Emotion

Bottling up emotions today leads to bubbling over emotions tomorrow. Repressed emotions lead to the breakdown of relationships. But so does overly expressed emotions. The key is somewhere in the middle where we don’t hold everything in and seeth, but we also don’t spout everything out like a fire hose. Below are five small steps … Continued

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The Power of Thank You

I read a simple email the other day that asked a powerful question. What if we replaced the word “sorry” with the phrase “thank you?” Sorry I was late. Sorry I am venting. Sorry I missed dinner. What if we replaced those phrases with: Thank you for waiting. Thank you for listening. Thank you for … Continued

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What’s Your Cheez Whiz?

After 15 years of our kids begging for a dog we finally broke down and got one. We’ve already fallen in love with our little “Roo,” but we’ve discovered quickly that unexpected expenses and trips to the doggy doctor are now the new norm. Yesterday Tori brought her to the vet to get a shot. … Continued

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Loving Your “Other” Spouse

Your marriage isn’t about you and your spouse. It’s about you and Jesus. Marriage is the opportunity to live and love like Him. In the New Testament alone there are 59 “one another” statements. That’s nearly 60 exhortations to “do something” toward another person. What we do toward others is our way of living like … Continued

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Closing the Love Loop

In the book of Luke we see a fascinating story on the power of gratitude and how it closes the “love loop” and creates connection in your relationships. Take a few mins and listen in…  

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