Bottling up emotions today leads to bubbling over emotions tomorrow. Repressed emotions lead to the breakdown of relationships. But so does overly expressed emotions. The key is somewhere in the middle where we don’t hold everything in and seeth, but we also don’t spout everything out like a fire hose.
Below are five small steps that can help you deal with your emotions so they will draw you close to the ones you love:
- Listen to the emotion – it is pointing toward something that needs to be done. Pay attention to it.
- Label the emotion – don’t identify with it. Name it. Rather than saying, “I’m mad” say, “I feel angry.” This keeps you in control of your identity.
- Live with the emotion – don’t deny that it’s there or feel guilty about what you’re feeling, accept it. Once you accept it you can properly work through it.
- Lose the emotion – once you’ve accepted it, don’t hold onto it. Emotions are temporary. If it’s a good emotion don’t expect it to hang around forever. If it’s a negative one let it go and don’t hold onto it.
- Learn from the emotion – after you’ve calmed yourself down, ask questions like, “what triggered me?” or “What could be the root of why I felt that way?”
Try these today and watch the power of emotion do its thing!