Jason & TOri

We met in the late 90’s and soon fell madly in love. But after marriage and walking through a few years of status quo mediocre, together, we discovered a great paradox—the beauty of any marriage is found only as you engage in the battle for the relationship. We realized early on that we were either going to fight against each other in a personal war or fight alongside one another in a spiritual battle. Stop fighting face to face and start battling back to back! We went through the former to get to the latter, and only by God’s grace have discovered that marriage and family relationships are indeed very beautiful gifts! That’s why we decided to share our journey through this website. We want to give you the ammunition you need to fight the battle with us and experience the beauty as we have. So if that’s you, then mount up, join us on the ride, and get ready to go to a brand new place in your marriage!


Raw Truths For Real Growth.

A powerful UNION
is the result of
two people going thru
the flames of death
and one new MARRIAGE
emerging from the


Join us on the journey

Trust the Triangle

We’ve discovered the marriages that last the test of time are not between two people, but three. Picture a triangle. Your spouse is at one end, you at the other, and God at the top. The closer each of you draw to God individually the closer you draw to each other. Understanding this principle releases … Continued

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When Fear Gets Loud

I don’t know about you but fear can get awfully loud inside of me. The more attention I give it, the stronger and louder it gets. A childhood memory of mine reminds me of this painful truth, but it also shows me the beauty of what’s on the other side of fear when I choose … Continued

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The Key to Relational Warmth

“Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone?” (Ecclesiastes 4:11) Imagine a cold night in the dead of winter and you jump into your cold bed with your spouse. God has divinely created us so that we give off body heat, so when two bodies touch we … Continued

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Four Phases of Parenting

Parenting four kids has taught us a lot. Now that our oldest is 16 we’re starting to see how our parenting has moved through four distinct phases. Phase 1: BABYSITTER – this is the first stage in parenting where all we care about is making sure our kids are safe and that they don’t put … Continued

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The Power of Forgiveness

One of the greatest hang-ups for married couples is in the area of forgiveness. Refusing to forgive and/or refusing to seek forgiveness leaves couples stuck until they deal with the issue at hand. Fortunately, Jesus gives us some instruction on what to do. In the famous “Lord’s Prayer” we see Him teaching us two areas … Continued

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How Humor Can Resolve Conflict

The details about how the argument began are a bit foggy. Jason and I hadn’t been married two years because we only had our first born, Trae. He was in a stroller and we were walking through a parking lot making our way to the county fair. I’m sure I had all sorts of expectations … Continued

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