Jason & TOri

We met in the late 90’s and soon fell madly in love. But after marriage and walking through a few years of status quo mediocre, together, we discovered a great paradox—the beauty of any marriage is found only as you engage in the battle for the relationship. We realized early on that we were either going to fight against each other in a personal war or fight alongside one another in a spiritual battle. Stop fighting face to face and start battling shoulder to shoulder! We went through the former to get to the latter, and only by God’s grace have discovered that marriage and family relationships are indeed very beautiful gifts! That’s why we decided to share our journey through this website. We want to give you the ammunition you need to fight the battle with us and experience the beauty as we have. So if that’s you, then mount up, join us on the ride, and get ready to go to a brand new place in your marriage!


Raw Truths For Real Growth.

A powerful MARRIAGE
is the result of
two people going thru
the flames and one
new person emerging
from the ashes.


Join us on the journey

Parking Your Ambition

Too many couples struggle from ambition angst. Ambition is a great passenger but a terrible driver. It can help you accomplish great things but it can also tear you apart. All-too-often we see couples struggling because one or both have competing ambitions. They may fulfill a dream but they fail in marriage. The key is … Continued

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One Word That Changes Everything

A sure-fire way to start a fight is to begin with the word “You.” “You never come home on time.” “You talk down at me.” “You lose your temper too much.” Starting with the word “You” puts your spouse in a defensive position. If a fight can be triggered by the word “You,” it can … Continued

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The Conflict Dichotomy

Conflict in relationship God’s way of making us more like Him. While it may be uncomfortable, it’s the only way our rough edges can be smoothed out. Conflict can either lead to gridlock or gratitude. It all depends on what we choose to do when it takes place. When conflict arises you have one of … Continued

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5 Steps to Deal With Emotion

Bottling up emotions today leads to bubbling over emotions tomorrow. Repressed emotions lead to the breakdown of relationships. But so does overly expressed emotions. The key is somewhere in the middle where we don’t hold everything in and seeth, but we also don’t spout everything out like a fire hose. Below are five small steps … Continued

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The Power of Thank You

I read a simple email the other day that asked a powerful question. What if we replaced the word “sorry” with the phrase “thank you?” Sorry I was late. Sorry I am venting. Sorry I missed dinner. What if we replaced those phrases with: Thank you for waiting. Thank you for listening. Thank you for … Continued

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What’s Your Cheez Whiz?

After 15 years of our kids begging for a dog we finally broke down and got one. We’ve already fallen in love with our little “Roo,” but we’ve discovered quickly that unexpected expenses and trips to the doggy doctor are now the new norm. Yesterday Tori brought her to the vet to get a shot. … Continued

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